Wilno drama: Don’t be afraid to help the abusers, says the victim’s son

The threat of imprisonment is a band-aid solution to protect victims, said Valerie Warmerdam, the daughter of Nathalie Warmerdam, on Monday, especially when the perpetrators of these crimes underestimate their lives outside of prison and cannot afford to consider and accept the consequences of their actions.

Restraining orders and strict bail conditions, intended to protect victims of abuse after the fact, also do not prevent abusers from going out and looking for other victims, he added.

This is what Basil Borutski repeatedly did, when he killed Nathalie Warmerdam, Carol Culleton and Anastasia Kuzyk on the night of September 22, 2015.

For this reason, the tools used to help offenders change are our best tool to prevent future victims.said Valerie Warmerdam, who is among the three parties that will speak at this public inquiry.

I want to be clear. What we want are recommendations that allow people, after all, to be the safest. While this may mean less harm to offenders, the best option is where there are the greatest number of people who are safe.he says.

Lack of trust in the system

Even after all that happened, Valerie Warmerdam told the public inquiry that if she was in her mother’s situation now, she didn’t know if she would file a lawsuit.

” It is very difficult to see the prison sentence as a way that really improves the situation of the victims. “

I feel like the exes he didn’t kill are still alive today because they didn’t file a lawsuit and that’s part of why I think this process. [d’enquête] is very importantshe pointed out. People should feel safe using these systems, a good idea in itself and help them be safer..

Ms Warmerdam also said the decision to go to the police was likely to be difficult especially in her mother’s case, as she herself did not trust local officials, after hearing and witnessing possible incidents of police harassment.

His mother showed no resentment towards Basil Borutski. He doesn’t want anything bad to happen to him and he still wants a happy ending for her-a common trait among victims of abuse, says Valerie Warmerdam.

He added that his mother probably realized that the charges against Basil Borutski would put him in mortal danger. The latter had previously told him that if one of his exes succeeded in imprisoning him, he should no longer wait until he was released, as he would kill them to achieve justice.

Although it took him several years, it certainly seems like the same thought process applied on September 22, 2015 [le jour des meurtres]that he first went to all the exes he was able to incarceratetestified Valerie Warmerdam.

Life with an impending killer

Regarding her life with Basil Borutski on her mother’s farm from 2010 to 2012, Valerie Warmerdam said that not everything is bad. She taught him how to pick chicken and he told his then boyfriends to take him home by 10 pm treat him well, otherwise …including the groom who became her wife.

If you just focus on the bad, he says, this will not stop the real people who continue these activities.

” You need to build a system that isn’t just for catching monsters, because honestly, most people won’t see them as monsters until such things happen. And it doesn’t serve anyone’s interest. “

Basil Borutski was an alcoholic and he and Nathalie Warmerdam often shouted at each other. He always poses as a victim – that is everyone wants her skin and that he really believe in his interpretations of realitywhich made it credible, says Valerie Warmerdam.

After two years, the situation is certainly worsened, he continued, pointing out that drinking and arguing are more common. Although she didn’t know what straw broke on the camel’s back for her mother, Valerie’s sister’s concern for safety was a big factor.

When Nathalie Warmerdam finally asked Basil Borutski to leave, she refused, and her reaction reminded him of the danger he was facingtestified to his son, Monday.

Despite his reservations, he went to the police station and filed a complaint to ensure his safety and that of his family.

In December 2012, Basil Borutski was convicted of threatening Nathalie Warmerdam’s child and pets, among other counts. He spent nearly a month in prison after his sentencing.

After Basil Borutski left her life, Nathalie Warmerdam got herself a gun, which she used in training, and she put it under the bed in case her ex -boyfriend showed up at her house. A security system was installed and he parked backwards in the parking spaces, in case he needed to get stuck quickly, in addition to preparing backup plans for anything that might happen.

When she learned that her ex, Basil Borutski, had beaten Anastasia Kuzyk, Nathalie Warmerdam eventually contacted her to encourage her to testify out of concern for potential victims, her son said.

There was also talk of whether Basil Borutski himself was a victim of abuse in his youth. Valerie Warmerdam points out that she wonders if the right upbringing and proper care for her, in her youth, can make a difference.

He would like to hear recommendations for early intervention programs in such cases.

Valerie Warmerdam also hopes to learn more about something that weighed heavily on her conscience in the years following the murders: why didn’t the police warn Nathalie Warmerdam about the danger she was in after Anastasia Kuzyk’s death? However, Anastasia’s sister called 911 shortly after Basil Borutski’s arrival.

This is long drive from Killaloe to my mother’s househe told the jury of public inquiry.

When his family members were deleting voicemail messages after the killings, they noticed a community member called to tell him that the situation was not safe, probably after about ten minutes, the murder shooting. Nathalie Warmerdam.

If community members can communicate this, I want to see a system that can provide them with information more reliably and faster.said Valerie Warmerdam.

With information from Kristy Nease of CBC News