There are couples who often break with the classic stereotypes of society. They are outside the box and even the telling of their story is not without attention. And an example that has come to light in the media is this marriage: he is homosexual, she is heterosexual and they reveal their formula for make a happy family and “you have great sex.”
Brynn Embley35, says she is happily married matthew nelson33. In fact, in addition to having two beautiful children and living in Michigan (United States), they admit that, although the bed is not the engine of that bond, they maintain “weekly sexual feedback sessions”.
The woman describes herself as heterosexual, while her husband identifies as gay or pansexualacknowledging however that he is “more attracted to men than women”.
Religion and lack of sex
According to what he says in the newspaper the sunMatthew had dated both men and women before getting married in 2017, but never had sex with anyone…not even with his current wife.
And despite acknowledging that he didn’t know if he’d ever like to be intimate with her, he married Brynn and they became parents. Self-doubt can gloss over at times, especially considering physical chemistry isn’t the focus, but who isn’t.
Both are members of the Church of Jesus Christ and Latter-day Saints, a faith that does not condone same-sex relationships. For example, Matthew says that a strong motivation for dating women was that he didn’t have to be single and celibate forever.
Brynn just met Matthew for the first time at church in early 2016 and after a few dates he revealed that he has been attracted to men since his teenage years.
By cultural mandate, he says, he dated women during his early 20s… and in every case he was honest about his orientation. As expected, he’s gotten all kinds of responses from the other side: there were those who tried and those who fled when they heard it.
confession and reactions
Given his previous experiences, Matthew was extremely nervous about what Brynn would think. But to her surprise, she just shrugged her shoulders upon hearing the truth about her.
“He looked at me directly and said ‘Brynn, I’m gay.’
“It just wasn’t a big deal, he was with me, it was his choice, what else mattered? I already knew we didn’t have a strong chemical attraction like I’d experienced with other boyfriends, but I really didn’t mind,” she says candidly.
The woman’s reflection goes further. “I know she thinks I’m attractive and is attracted to me, and her sexual orientation doesn’t negate those things,” she says. And she expands: “I was really happy to have a relationship where the key point was like and respect each other as people“.
They dated a few months before he ended their relationship, in part because Matthew had strong feelings for a man. “I don’t think I had a lot of emotional bandwidth then because I was still trying to deal with my strong feelings for another guy,” she confesses.
It didn’t seem right then for either of them to stay in the relationship if they weren’t sure of that basic attraction. Because of this, they remained friends, but Brynn’s then boyfriend also said they had chemistry and they started dating again in September 2017.
Special connection in the couple
Matteo, postdoctoral researcher in psychologyreveals, “It was definitely a leap of faith, because I still wasn’t sure what sex with Brynn, or any woman, would be like. But we trusted the other elements of our relationship to be there and if that part was harder, we could work together.”
His wife only confirms the point of view. “There was a mutual feeling of total and absolute happinessas if it were my person”, ruling beyond any doubt about the sexual connection.
And there the man with the generous beard takes the floor again: “I tried to be as open as possible, and I wasn’t sure if I would like to have sex with her. But we both feel calm because we enjoyed hugging, shaking hands and kissing us,” he exemplifies.
The unconventional couple in full view of others enhances their relationship with therapy and weekly sex discussions scheduled every Thursdaywhere they offer commentary and advice.
“I think a lot more people than those out there are gay, bi, pan or whatever,” Brynn says. “Most of my previous relationships revolved around chemical attraction, but now I think liking, fitting in, and completing a person is much more central to a long-term relationship.
“Sex Works Great”
The uncertainty that repeatedly swirled in Matthew’s head due to his zero experience in terms of sexual intercourse had its big news: “And it turns out that the sex thing works really wellso everything was fine!” she said.
She says she didn’t even know how strong her bias towards one gender or the other could be, because even though she was more attracted to boys in general, there were some girls who showed up that she felt a little tickled about.
“I had a strong drive to really try to make it work with a woman; I didn’t want to be single and celibate for the rest of my life.“, admits the American.
Furthermore, he brings a situation to the table: “I’ve heard homosexual men say they can’t even imagine trying to have sex with a woman, and I’ve never felt like this,” he assures, going on to demonstrate that he is clearly not the part stronger than his bond with Brynn.
The couple headed to Manti, Utah for finally get married on December 27, 2017, and they were finally able to be intimate with each other. “Now we like to have sex and be together like this, it’s a relief!“
With all the honesty in the world, Brynn explains that she would stress if they didn’t have sex a certain number of times a week, because she thought maybe Matthew wouldn’t like it enough. “That’s not the case, and I try to remember that if we both feel sexually satisfied, that’s all that matters“confirmation.
The pair explain that sincerity and small talk are also key in bed. “We share if we need more, if there’s something the other can do to help make it a better part of our marriage, and so on,” Brynn specifies without blushing.
Happy married couple with two daughters
The pair have been together for four years, are happy and monogamous, and they did two daughters: Amandine, two years old, and Ginebra, one.
“Our religion teaches that marriage is only between a man and a woman. However, we also want our children to be happy and they are unsure of who they are and what or who they choose and are attracted to“, they raise as a point of dissent.
There are some people who make assumptions about Brynn and Matthew’s relationship that are just plain wrong. That’s why they try to focus only on the positives and avoid being put off by negative comments.
“We are very happy with this particular, unique and sublime relationship,” say those sharing their Instagram story to @gayprofessordad.
Source: Clarin
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