For a few years now the concept of toxic people refer to certain behaviors of some people that influence us and alter our mental health.
Time and science have also given birth to their counterpart and now let’s talk about it “vitamin reports”those that strengthen us and contribute to our well-being.
But we must remember that relationships are two-way, so we must not blame the other but rather analyze what kind of bonds we maintain with that other, a positive perspective that shows us how we function in this or that relationship.
From this we can take charge of our part to act and change the situation. At least as far as we’re concerned.
One of the actions we can try is self knowledge knowing that with certain temperaments we cannot walk our path harmony and tranquility. It can also help us detect degrees of toxicity in ourselves.
People to avoid to protect our mental health
Affinity with the other does not necessarily imply similarity, opposite characters can complement each other and establish a healthy and friendly friendship. Personal growth for both.
But if we live in permanent conflict, or at least we perceive it within ourselves, it means that, whether we are similar or different, things with that person don’t work and we have to dismantle the relationship.
What kind of people are the most conflicted?
Places Psychology online AND Psychology in action They define some profiles to avoid.
1. Arrogant, selfish and authoritarian people
They position themselves in front of us with a certain attitude of superiority. Your word weighs more than that of the other and you need yours permanent recognition.
His ego is so spacious that it makes his interlocutor hesitate, doubt and stumble. They usually have a negative evaluation of their partner.
2. Envious people
Jealousy and envy have a common root. These people usually inhibit friends when they want to share a state of happiness.
Even if many times they don’t recognize it, they are not happy with their well-being and look for a way to turn off theirs state of satisfaction with messages that are not very empathetic or ironic.
3. Manipulative people
They are the ones who use the emotional blackmail. Many times they give you the choice: “either me or the others”, when you feel you have emotional space for everyone.
They have a particular concept of loyaltyThey are not disinterested and offer their company in exchange for something that, if you don’t give them, makes you feel indebted. A typical phrase is: “with everything I do for you”. They are dominant and controlling.
Beyond these three main typologies, in friendship, as years go by. Or those of work camaraderie. Or as a couple, there are other characteristics we need to pay attention to.
People in whom we perceive strange attitudes. For example:
- People with a penchant for lying.
- Those who are overly critical without bringing anything positive.
- People with retrograde or primitive thinking who hinder your progress.
- Gossip and insecure people distort information.
- Parasitic temperaments who pretend that their lives depend on others, hold them responsible for their failures and show themselves as victims.
Love and finances
The specialized site Yahoo Finance, in a note entitled “the three toxic relationships to stay away from”, focuses on relationships linked to both affective like the business world.
In his text he underlines that there are three types of people to whom particular attention must be paid:
- Don’t invest in an emotionally unavailable personality.
- Avoid those who don’t know how to apologize.
- Be wary of those seeking status in your company.
Obviously the best way to approach life if you meet someone with this personality type is to turn to psychologist or therapist. They will provide you with guidelines for a more in-depth analysis.
If you want to know more about these personalities, the online psychology site develops in a specialized text the characteristics of these people who could create problems for us.
Caution in choosing the company is one of the starting points for maintain healthy, long-lasting relationships. And sometimes we’re not just talking about a couple. Even in friendship, at work, in the disco, we can meet attractive people but with a very particular energy.
The Psychology in Action websitewho recommends always consulting specialists, in a text on toxic people defines the characteristics of some people to take care of.
In any case we must remember that, in addition to knowing the typology of others, it is good to remember what we are like. Our life, our childhood, our addictions. Our personality. And remember what kind of temperament or attitudes we will never be able to function with.
Source: Clarin
Mary Ortiz is a seasoned journalist with a passion for world events. As a writer for News Rebeat, she brings a fresh perspective to the latest global happenings and provides in-depth coverage that offers a deeper understanding of the world around us.