He wanted to meet his sperm donor, but the truth was devastating

A single mother who became pregnant through a sperm bank wanted to know more about her daughter’s biological father and grandparents. She also tried to discover any genetic problems the girl might have, but the result was devastating.

Danielle Teuscher carried out a private DNA test to trace the minor’s biological father, paying a high price. According to information from CBS News, 5-year-old Zoe is one of thousands of children conceived with sperm from an anonymous donor.

But faced with Zoe’s recurring questions, her mother decided to put aside the donor’s anonymity and went to a private laboratory to perform a DNA test. There, with the final outcome, she would have tried to contact the relatives of her daughter.

They thus arrived at a result that allowed them to meet Zoe’s paternal grandmother. So once he got the woman’s information, he was encouraged to write to her directly.

“I said ‘I don’t want to cross any lines. I just want to let you know that we are here and we are open to contact if that’s the case,” Teuscher said.

“Good morning, I think your son could have been my daughter’s donor. I’ve spent weeks thinking about whether or not to contact you. The last thing I want to do is exaggerate or make anyone feel uncomfortable. In any case, I just wanted to tell you that we are here and that we are available to contact us. With our best wishes, Danielle and Zoe.”

But not everything remained there. Then he received a letter from Northwest Cryobank, the sperm bank he had turned to. There they told him not to communicate further with the donor’s relatives or “obtain more information about his identity, background or whereabouts.”

The bank also said that customers like Teuscher “have contractually agreed not to independently seek the identity of or attempt to communicate with these individuals.”

The woman, however, said that it is not about her: “My daughter is a living, breathing human being who feels like she didn’t sign that contract.”.It is everyone’s right to know the truth about their DNAtheir background, their family members and their medical history,” said Wendy Kramer, who manages the Sibling Donor Registry.

But the sperm bank came down hard for what they interpreted as a breach of confidentiality: They took away her access to four more vials with sperm from the same donor that she had reserved so that her daughter would have biological siblings in the future..

Danielle lamented the loss of her blisters: “They literally took my babies away from me. My future babies,” she said. Northwest Cryobank said so he will return the money, but not the cells.

The debate remained open.​ From the donor’s point of view, not everyone wants to agree to stop being anonymous. On the other hand, there is a human being who has the right to know or know who his biological father is.