It is known that there are couples who break with the stereotypes imposed by society. Their unconventional stories never cease to amaze. And one case is that of a woman who After six years of marriage and two children, she confessed to her husband that she was a lesbian. But not only that, but continue together and she considers it hers “soul mate”.
Nicoletta Stern (26) made the confession to Ryan (27) during the summer of 2020, after six years of keeping her sexuality a secret. And what may be striking is that she admitted it “don’t be surprised” for the revelation.
The young woman from North Carolina, USA, assures that she still believes that Ryan is her ideal partner and her best friend, because they are “for each other”.
Together, parenting and support
Far from being in a hostile battle that could involve anger and division of property, the couple still live together. And it’s not just the two of them, since they are parents of Jace and Clay, ages five and four.
Since revealing her unusual parental bond on TikTok, the delivery girl has received praise from others. homosexual women in heterosexual marriages for demonstrating successful co-parenting.
“For now, what we’re doing is working. We’re trying to figure out our ways and make sure our kids get the best results,” says Nicolette, playing Underground.
“Ryan travels, so he can’t see the kids often. I’m trying to find my new path, while raising our children. That’s why we prioritize family life,” she adds.
From both sides of the couple’s family support the decision stay married. “It’s about the kids being happy, knowing they’re loved, and having both parents present as much as possible,” she adds.
early marriage and confession
She was 19 and he was 20 when they agreed to get married. They have grown up and gone through key life stages at an early age, hence the way they cling to each other. “I feel like she will always be my soulmate, just from a different perspective,” says Nicolette.
About 18 months ago, while the couple lived in Japan and amid restrictions stemming from the coronavirus pandemic, Nicolette decided to tell Ryan her truth.
“We were confined to our house, then we spent a lot of time together. We learned a lot about ourselves, so I think that was part of the big push to keep that conversation going,” the young woman notes in the paper.
Nicolette admits she found out she was a lesbian growing up, but was scared of “coming out” because of the extremely conservative place where he grew up in the United States. “We’re from the Midwest, from the country. We grew up hunting, fishing. Also, Ryan’s family is pretty religious too.
“At first I was terrified, but as I got older I felt a heavier and bigger weight on my chest. I had to do something, and then I realized I had to talk to my husband,” she relives the defining moment when it clicked.
Understanding and support
Ryan has been supportive of Nicolette since the moment he found out from her. And he admits that he saw signs that his wife was gay before she opened up to him. “I began to have suspicions but I preferred not to ask, I wanted to wait for her to tell me herself,” he says.
In fact for a while the only one who knew was him because he didn’t quite know how to handle the situation behind the doors of the house.
“It has really started to change, even the the way she dressed, the type of clothing, the aesthetics. Also how he hugged me. It wasn’t an overnight transformation,” says her husband.
Something similar happened when the day came when Nicolette faced the difficult situation of telling her mother that she was a lesbian. “I called her one night while I was working and I said, ‘I just have to tell you.’ She was crying and everything. She said, ‘I love you and it doesn’t matter what you do.’ accepted, even though I was.” , she concludes.
Impact on TikTok
After uploading videos to Tik Tok referencing her particular life, Nicolette has found a surprising audience of women who feel very identified with their situation.
He reiterates that he didn’t expect his case to blow up at all. But by taking some time to think about it, she understands how interesting the off the record experience can be for others.
“The reaction on TikTok has been mostly supportive. And it amazes me to read the comments of so many women who are in the same situation as me. Of course, there’s also no shortage of hateful comments from people who don’t understand. Luckily they are the last ones,” describes the 26-year-old.
Most celebrate the fact that Nicolette and Ryan are able to work together to raise their young children despite the paradigm shift.
“Love this for your family! It’s great to have such a solid friendship and great co-parenting relationship,” wrote one user on the Networks.
Another added: “I’m going through a similar situation and my husband is totally supportive. It’s amazing to have such a partner.”
Source: Clarin
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