She rented the womb and gave birth to 13 children, but something unexpected happened that moved her

Carol Horlock she is a woman who rented her womb and is known as “the most prolific in the world” after have 13 children for other couples. But what supposes her happiness for having managed to overcome some gestational impediment has a dark chapter in her life: one of her children who she had revealed to be her husband.

Carole gave birth 4 kg baby in June 2004 for surrogacybelieving him to be another couple’s child, created from her egg but with the other woman’s husband’s sperm.

However, the couple did a DNA test six weeks after birth and found out that the baby was from Paul, Carole’s husband.

adoption attempt

Faced with such a scenario of heartache and bewilderment, Carole and Paul agreed they could still adopt him. But she was devastated when contact with the other pair was broken and now confess. “I can’t stop thinking about him.”

Currently, the woman from the Essex region of England is on the adoption contact register in hopes that he would like to meet her. when i turn 18 this year.

Carole, whose achievement was entered in the Guinness World Records, explains: “I am immensely proud of my career as a surrogate mother and to have 13 children who are loved by their families.”

And she admits, “Surrogacy has brought me and the families I’ve helped immeasurable joy, but it’s also brought me into the darkest moments of my life.”

Beyond how wonderful the act itself is, she points out that there’s a dark side to things going wrong: “anguish, roller coaster of emotions and a devastating flavor”.

Created by chance in an act of love

The case of Carol and Paul’s baby, today 55 and 69 years oldIt was his ninth experience. “This kid was accidentally gestated with an act of love between me and my partner”account in the newspaper Mirror.

He claims he knew nothing when they handed it to him, and when they found out and reconsidered the situation they finally made up their minds let them keep it.

“People ask me how I could have delivered this child if it was mine, but many of the surrogate children I have given have been biologically mine,” Carol points out.

“The difference was that this baby was also Paul’s. Not a single day did we stop thinking about him. We live with the hope that he notices us, and when he turns 18, he will want to see us,” she insists on her goal of him.

Pregnancy, complaint and decisions

In 2003, Carole agreed to become a surrogate mother for a British woman and inseminated herself with her businessman husband’s sperm.

As part of the experience, surrogate mothers are recommended where possible Don’t have sex until you get pregnant. “I never promised I wouldn’t have sex, but my husband and I took precautions,” she justifies herself.

Obviously the news of the pregnancy filled the couple who turned to them with joy. They went through medical studies and even childbirth. Carole, for example, stayed with them for the following week as well.

Six weeks later the problem broke out. Furious, the alleged father called the surrogacy agency to complain a DNA test proved the baby was not his. And a second test confirmed it, the British media underline.

“It was a terrible situation for everyone. I remember repeatedly telling the surrogacy agency, ‘Do you want this?'” she reveals. And she warns those who aren’t so knowledgeable, “As a surrogate, you’re about to have a baby for someone else. Don’t bond, you prepare to be your son. For nine months you mentally distance yourself from the creature“.

But with the fait accompli, they had to make too complex a decision: what would they do if the couple returned it? And what to do now that they knew it was biologically theirs?

Carol and Paul, with children from other couples

Paul (69) is Carole’s (55) second husband. They had no children together, although both have been in previous relationships..

Carole says she had to talk honestly with her daughters about whether they would keep the baby or put it up for adoption. “Finally, Paul made the decision. He said: “If they don’t want it, we turn it up”. We decided that if they still loved him and wanted to keep him, we would let him stay with them,” he recalls the key moment.

“It was a very important decision. This boy was different because he also belonged to my partner and we hadn’t had a child together. While it was a heartbreaking decision, I still think it was the right one for him and “his parents”Paul says.

And he resorts to similar reasoning to Carol’s: “I spent nine months believing this child was from the couple. I did not consider it mine nor did I invest any emotions in the pregnancy. In fact, they had already started thinking about the next couple they were going to help, which is Carol’s 14-year-old boy.”

“It was only when I took care of my two daughters after they were born that I loved them as a mother should,” Carol adds similarly to understanding her role in the story.

contact yes or no

After the baby was adopted by the couple, Carole notes that they kept in touch by mail for a few years. But “relations broke down completely” and the letters stopped.

“I am in contact with almost all my surrogate children, but not with him. Over the years we always think of him. Paul developed a heart condition and it would break my heart if I never met him”, adds the drama with an extra fact.

After resorting to technology, the woman admits that she found a photo of herself, aged six or seven, on social media. on his mother’s Facebook profile. “It is a natural curiosity if you have created a human being, I could not help myself,” he justifies himself and regrets that he cannot be in touch.

Carol and Paul’s goal now is hopefully making it to June. “When children are adopted, you can signal an interest and leave them a letter once they turn 18 they can know who you are and if they want to contact you”, reports and of course that letter was sent. All that remains is to wait a few months to see if another chapter of this fantastic story can be written.