He appears as mother and she as father: the first couple after having a baby girl in France

Mattéo and Victorie became the first trans couple to give birth to a girl in France. He is the mother and she is the father.

For the registry office and social security, Matteo is a man. However, it was he who saw her belly swell, month after month, and finally gave birth in the maternity ward of the Jacques-Coeur hospital in France. Quite naturally. Victoire, his companion, a man at the time of delivery, now a woman due to marital status and social security, was at her side to see the birth of her daughter, who arrived just four days before the due date. With 3,640 kg and 50 cm, Avah Well. Also his father.

“The hospital staff behaved very well,” Mattéo stressed.

The couple also expressed their satisfaction on the Facebook page of the Jacques-Coeur de Bourges hospital, where they were seen posing with the nurses. An article was also published in the hospital newspaper. Dr Julien Cirier, head of the hospital’s obstetrics-gynecology service and women, mothers and children’s unit, says everything has been done “to get as close as possible to a classic situation.” There was no reason to take a different approach. The team did everything as usual.

“There were no inappropriate gestures or words. Just kind and honest questions,” says Victoire. “The satisfaction they expressed is what makes us most proud and what has most excited the teams,” says the hospital’s communications department. “And it confirms that, as a public institution, we are at the service of everyone, without prejudice!

A month after giving birth, Matteo and Victoire adjust to their new routine. In the living room, next to the dog’s kennel, there is a stroller. A cat is dozing on the sofa. Even the baby, quietly in his father’s arms. “She’s a good girl,” says Victoire, his partner. Had she known she would want her, after wanting her so badly, she admits she didn’t expect to be “so scared.” You trembled at the thought of touching it”, Mattéo smiles. You didn’t dare”. She admits she’s happy, even if not everything is resolved on paper. They promised to tell their daughter about her, when she’s old enough, because his birth was for them like a small miracle.

For her, for three years, they suspended her life. They stopped their hormone treatments. Victoire has temporarily given up on operations that she can now schedule to complete her transition. And Matteo embarked on a gynecological journey “physically and psychologically tough”. It took them three years to start a family and give birth to this little girl who will be their only child. It was the dream of both.

Now they stand up to help others. To prove that it is possible. Matteo confesses that “I’ve always felt bad. My mother supported me, she took me to the psychiatrist”. It was in his teens that things started happening, when he realized what was going on with him… Talking to family about him took some time. “At 18, I told them I liked women. At 23, I told them I was transgender, and at 24, I started transitioning. I went through the official process, with mandatory psychiatric treatment. I needed to know, to understand. My surgeon, my endocrinologist and my psychiatrist work together.” Closely fused with her mother, a witness to the suffering he suffered, he believes this childhood trauma led him to want to become a man to protect her. “I didn’t feel like I belonged as a woman.”

Victoire knew it “since I was born,” she says with a hint of defiance in her voice. “When I was two or three, my family thought I was going to be gay! Her parents never imagined that she would become a woman and they didn’t accept it. “Starting in elementary school, I knew something was wrong. As a teenager, I asked to see a psychiatrist, but my parents wouldn’t let me.”

It was at the age of 16 that he discovered the concept of transidentity, through videos posted by a transsexual person “with whom I identified”. At 18, I began my full transition, following the call off the record.” She had started hormone treatment when she met Matteo, thanks to her sister, with whom she had become friends. She was going the same way as me, but in the opposite direction, “explains Victoire. She thought she could help me and she introduced us. Love did the rest”.