Carnegie Mellon University in the U.S.: “Women’s ‘excitement’ plummets twice as much as men’s”
Impact on housework and childcare… The older the couple, the more similar men and women are.
Regardless of the length of your relationship, love can grow if you are apart for a long time.
A study in the United States found that women’s love cools off faster than men’s after marriage.
Foreign media such as the New York Post and Daily Mail reported on the 9th (local time) that a Carnegie Mellon University research team recently conducted an experiment with adult men and women, showing that women’s love tends to cool down more than twice as fast as men’s. The research team speculated that childcare and division of housework may have had an impact. In addition, it was revealed that the longer a couple is, the less ‘excitement’ they feel, but the emotional frequency of men and women remains similar.
Professor Saurabh Bhargava tracked the emotions of about 3,900 people, ranging from couples who had been engaged for two years to couples who had been married for 20 years. He analyzed the psychology of the participants based on the information they reported about the people they were with and the emotions they felt every 30 minutes for 10 days.
As a result, the frequency of women who met their partner for more than three years, including engagement and marriage, feeling loved by their partner was 60% lower than that of women at the beginning of the relationship. On the other hand, when compared under the same conditions, the frequency of men feeling love decreased by only 0.4%, showing a significant difference.
‘Excited love’, an emotion similar to ‘excitement’, also decreased by 80% in women over time, while it decreased by 30% in men.
The research team said that women feel love much more often than men in the early stages of a relationship, but it is difficult to sustain it for a long time. Professor Bhargava talked about the connection between housework and childcare. On average, women spend more time doing housework and cooking than men, so the feelings at the beginning of a relationship disappear.
He explained that having children redistributes feelings of love to the children, and that the burden of household chores increases due to childcare, which can also be a cause.
On the other hand, after a certain period of time, the emotions of men and women remained equal. In couples that have been together for more than 7 years, the frequency with which men and women feel love is almost the same, and they seem to focus on their own work. Professor Bhargava expressed his optimism, saying, “Even if romance and passion diminish, they persist in other ways.”
Professor Bhargava added that love grows ‘the further apart we are from each other’. He said that regardless of the length of time they met, couples who met after being separated for more than 8 hours felt greatly in love.
Source: Donga
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