“We have amazing sex”: the story of a man who fell in love with his biological mother and confessed it to his wife

a mother already gave her son for adoption over 35 years ago ended up in love. The sentence is complex, but it sums up the controversial story of Kim West (57) and Ben Ford (38), who were previously a biological mother and son and, later, a happy couple. The world knew this story in 2016, and the controversy was so great that those involved decided to go “underground” ever since.

West, who grew up in Islington, London, and pregnant on 19 while a student in California, she gave up her child for adoption just a week after her birth. In December 2013, Ford, was 29 years old and living in the United States. Together with his wife Victoria, he sent a letter to his biological mother to suggest reunion. Once they saw each other, in 2014, they began more than an unusual relationship between the couple. The English media called them “The Impossible to Love”

“Every time I have sex with my wife, I imagine that my mother, otherwise, I wouldn’t be excited,” Ford himself described to the newspaper. The New Day. The couple said they felt sexual attraction “from minute 1”. Y the first kiss was accompanied by a bottle of champagne in a hotel, before sex. Three days after they had sex for the first time, Ford told his wife that he no longer loved it and that he would live with his birth mother. And he recognized her: “We have amazing sex.”

The “impossible lover” lived together in Michigan and dreamed of having a child.

West, who was working as an interior designer, told Alley Einstein’s reporter The New Day: “It’s not incest, it is Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA). It’s like we’re two drops of water and we’re destined to be together. ”And he continued:“ I know that people will say we are disgusting, that we should control our emotions, but when one is struck by a love that consumes you, one is willing to give up everything for it. You have to fight him. It’s a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity and something Ben and I are not willing to give up. “‘

Incest is illegal in the state of Michigan, so they said they were willing to move where they were “legally allowed to have fun.” Ang Genetic Sexual Attraction the one West was talking to This is a phenomenon that little is known about. and this will take place between siblings, half -siblings, cousins ​​and adoptive parents and their biological parents when they meet again after a long time.

Within that syndrome, they describe “feelings of intense intimacy which occurred between two relatives separated in critical years of development and bonding, when they were first reunited as adults. ”In psychology, definition encompasses a common characteristic: “When an adult-child and his or her biological father finally meet, find, the brain has a hard time getting along with each other as a family. By sharing the same physical appearance and taste, that is intertwined with feelings of intimacy and sexuality. ”This can lead both parties to express their sexual feelings.

angThe phenomenon was first recognized by Barbara Gonyo in 1980, after publishing a book called “I’m your mother, but not my son”where she told of her son whom she gave up for adoption at the age of 16.

Genetic Sexual Attraction is rare among parents of children who are together in a child’s early childhood, due to a “reverse sexual impression” known as the Westermarck effect, which will desensitize to sexual attraction. Experts on the subject believe that this effect was developed to prevent inbreeding (pairs between people from the same family).

Six years ago the news of Kim and Ben’s relationship was very strong and traveled the world quickly the pressure under which they began to live was not maintained. So they made a drastic decision: go underground. Disappear and act as if the earth has swallowed them.

Since 2017 there is no accurate data about them. There are many rumors and versions: that they live in the United States after their identity is changed, that they return to England and they even choose to live in a country in Central America to live their love with complete peace of mind. . The reason for the decision to lose was clear: both had fear of being prosecuted for that illegitimate relationshipthat even in reality no one knows if it will still continue.